Well-being starts with being well. Being well is a characteristic of being at peace. At peace means just being. And beingness is your state of existence and feeling comfortable with how you are at this very moment.
We give away our beingness by constantly having our attention outwards and being more concerned with what others are thinking, feeling and doing over what we are thinking, feeling and doing. If you look at this closely you might just discover that oftentimes what you feel does not really match what you say or do. We complain about chaos but the greatest chaos already lives within us. It is called cognitive dissonance. The good news is, it can be reversed; the same way we learned it, we can unlearn it.
To start on the path of general well-being it is my strong recommendation to honor what you feel. To honor means accepting it first. Once this is done you can evolve and transform the way you feel. Why is this important? Because you are already there, regardless if you accept it or not. Not accepting it, however, will only bring dis-ease of the mind, emotions and body.
Water is water regardless if it is calm or fierce, shallow or deep; it never stops being water, it always is. You are who you are regardless of what you feel, think or do. You are not your thoughts, emotions or actions; what you are is much greater than that. Your thoughts, actions and experiences are like clouds in the sky, they come and go – you are the space where it all happens.
To honor your feelings means to make them valid, even if for your whole life you have been hearing it is not ok to feel a certain way. Let’s go deeper into this. When you were born nobody taught you how to demand what you needed by crying, or how to love, eat, crawl, stand up and eventually walk. All the drive to accomplish this wondrous feats was embedded in you, and you did it instinctively, no learning was present in this phase of your life, you did this on your own. Eventually learning came along and, with that, the beliefs of everyone around you (which they learned, through the beliefs of someone else). Since you were little you have been learning how to quiet your inner voice in order to please the beliefs of parents, family members, teachers, friends, etc. You learned this so well that eventually you lost sight of what you need or even how you are truly feeling. To feel well in all senses, you need to re-encounter who you are, you need to find your inner voice, your true needs.
It starts by paying attention to what you are feeling, to look inwards and understand why you are feeling the way you do. What you feel matters, it is your starting point, it is how you get to know who you truly are and what you need. Everyone knows what they want but very few know what they need. Honoring your feelings awaken your inner voice, known as your intuition – once awakened and if you are paying attention, it can lead to you feeling your very best.
Smile. All you need is already within you. ML
